The Single Girl’s Guide to Self-Love

The Single Girl’s Guide to Self-Love

The Single Girl's Guide to Self-Love

Hi, my loves!

Welcome to February! We’ve got Groundhog Day, Black History Month, President’s Day…and Valentine’s Day.

*insert either a sigh of disdain or laughter and joy*

Personally, I love THE IDEA of Valentine’s Day. I love all the pinks and reds, the hearts, the candy. I love it. But as a single lady for the last two years, I can’t help but feel that tiny twinge of sadness on the day as I scroll through social media. Are my single ladies with me?

Last year on the day, three of my girlfriends and I all found ourselves single for the first time in four years of college, and this by itself was reason to celebrate. We all got together at my apartment, made tacos and chocolate covered strawberries, sipped wine and watched bad TV and had the best single Valentine’s Day.

If, like me, you find yourself separated from your best gals this year due to distance, the pandemic, or just life, you may be feeling unsure of how to make this Valentine’s Day feel special just for YOU. Here are some ideas to help you make the day special and to help you practice self-love, because you DO deserve it!

Buy Yourself the Flowers and Chocolates

Flowers and Chocolates: Valentine’s Day staples. Maybe you love it. Maybe it makes you want to barf. I respect that. HOWEVER, there’s no reason to wait until you have a prescribed Valentine to treat yourself to sweet little gifts! If you do enjoy flowers, head out to the store and buy yourself the prettiest bouquet you can find! They’ll bring some life back into your space and make you smile. Flowers not your thing? Get the chocolates (Hell, even if the flowers are your thing, get the chocolates)! Don’t like flowers OR chocolates? Buy a pizza, some chips, ice cream, a bottle of wine- literally, treat yourself to whatever is going to make you happy!

Prepare Little Valentine’s Day Goodies for Your Friends or Co-Workers

Just because you might not be able to celebrate with your galentine’s in person doesn’t mean you can’t send a little bit of love their way on V-Day! One way to do that could be to put together a little bag of goodies to either mail to your friends or drop on their doorsteps! I’m not really all about Valentine’s Day, but I will say, Valentine’s Day themed gifts are really pretty. You could get cute little gift bags and fill them with candies, mini wine bottles, lips gloss/smackers, other makeup, candles, little earrings packs….the list goes on and on! All things you can find between your local dollar store, Target, Marshall’s, Walmart- nothing that breaks the bank! You could also give little goodie bags to your co-workers (you know, if you work in that sort of environment)!

Keep in mind, you don’t even have to send or drop off little gifts, you could also mail your friends a card/letter or drop one in your mailbox. Simply writing a little note letting your friends know you love them is truly gift enough!

This leads me to…

Throw a Galentine’s Day Party on Zoom

I know, we are SO sick of Zoom parties and gatherings. We are ready to go out and actually BE with our friends, drinking fun little drinks and eating tacos in public in our cute little outfits. Trust me. I get it. BUT we must make the most of the situation we are in! The next best thing: A Zoom Galentine’s Day party! Everyone can bust out the cocktail and meal of their choice OR perhaps you can all coordinate and make the same menu individually, then come together and catch up on Zoom. Everyone can wear their best comfy pink/red/white outfit, and maybe you even choose a cute movie to watch all together while one person screen shares! If you haven’t seen your gals in a while, getting together on Zoom will just be a great excuse to catch up if nothing else!


All the ideas mentioned above are perfect things to do this Valentine’s Day to find SOME way to celebrate, but now let’s take a step back and get a little more personal. So, what are some ways that you can show up for yourself and practice self-love in a much more personal way- this Valentine’s Day and beyond? Here are some sweet little suggestions for you to fill your Valentine’s Day with self-love!

Move Your Body

One of the greatest and easiest (generally speaking) acts of self-love that you can perform is moving your body! If you are mentally and physically able, I encourage you to find time to move your body in ways that make you feel strong, confident, and beautiful! You’ll feel lighter and happier when you’re done, for sure. Do whatever YOU feel best doing, no matter what that is! Even if that just means finding some time to stretch, taking care of yourself in this way is the ultimate act of self-care and self-love!

Cultivate Your Self-Love Affirmations

Affirmations can truly set the tone for your day, week, month, year- they are SO powerful! Grab your sticky notes and get ready to plaster your bathroom/bedroom mirror with your self-love affirmations! Take a moment and think about need out of a daily affirmation. Do you need love? Encouragement? Positivity? Strength? What is something that you are always looking to others to affirm for you? Surprise, my friends, you are more than capable of providing yourself with the affirmation that you need in any aspect of your life! We are through depending on others to affirm our worth, or anything else in our lives for that matter! Once you think of what you’d like to affirm for yourself most at this point in time, write it on a sticky note, stick it to a mirror that you’re going to look at every day, and never stop forgetting your worth.

Write Down What You Love About Yourself

Self Love Journal

If you have never taken the time to write down things you love about yourself, now is the perfect time to start! Truthfully, this isn’t something I’ve regularly done for myself- so I am right there with you if you want to try to make more of a conscious effort to incorporate this practice into your daily life! When I did the 14 Day Get Up and Dance Challenge with Dance From Home, there were days where we didn’t do any physical movement, we only had to write down three things we loved about ourselves that weren’t physical traits. I loved doing this, and it inspired me to continue the practice of writing down things I love about myself. If you can find three things, little things, that you love about yourself to write down each day- that’s amazing. If you can only find one thing to write down- that’s an amazing place to start. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but I promise, it will be so worth it in the end.

Feel like you still need a little help on this one? I have just the thing for you! When you subscribe to Beyond the Footlights for the month of February, I’ll send you my February Self-Love Journal directly to your inbox! I’ve done the construction for you; you just have to fill in what you love about yourself (which is arguably the hardest part)!


No matter how you’re spending Valentine’s Day this year, I think it’s about time that you start showing yourself more love than anyone could ever show you. That’s the first step, right? They (whoever ‘they’ is) say you can’t love someone else until you unconditionally love yourself, and I find this to be absolutely true. Love yourself, cherish yourself, and set the precedent for how you deserve to be loved and treated by others!

Now, have some pizza, have some win, have some chocolate, and don’t text your ex.

I LOVE YA!

~ Ang

Monthly Minute

Monthly Minute

Monthly Minute
August Round Up

August Round Up

Hi everyone!

Another month of 2020 down. Sad that it’s going so fast, but one month closer to (hopefully) a better 2021! We must be hopeful!

I’ll admit, my round up for the month is a little sparse! While I went back to my part-time job at the end of last month, this month was when I got into the full swing of things and I did spend a lot of my time working. I’m grateful that I’m able to work and I enjoy the little job I have; it’s nice to have something that gets me out and gives me a little change of scenery, you know? In addition to working, I was able to spend about a week and a half this month being a member of the 24 Hour Plays: Nationals cohort as an actor! I mean this from the bottom of my heart, what an incredible experience. Not only was I able to feel like a performer again, but I learned so much, made so many new connections, and took part in meaningful work. It’s an experience that I will treasure as I move forward in my professional career, I’m grateful I had the opportunity to be part of it!

In addition to working a lot this month, I did a lot of work on my yoga teacher certification! I am VERY close to being done, and I am again, very grateful that the online training program I went with is move at your own pace. It has taken me longer to get to this point than I originally had anticipated, but I wanted to make sure I was really absorbing the material- so, thank God for that! Later in September, probably as I am finally finishing the program, I’m going to write a post that will be Part Two of my Yoga Journey post, so look out for that! I am also hoping to maybe start creating some mini classes to post on my social media for people to take at their own leisure, as well as some live classes as I get ready to get some teaching experience under my belt!

Hopefully, LOTS of new and exciting things as I continue to build and expand my brand a bit more!

Alright. This is usually the portion of my Monthly Minute post where I share the written monthly goals I had set for the month and whether or not I had accomplished them. And in an attempt to be as fully transparent with my readers and followers as possible, I am admitting that I FORGOT to sit down and write out my goals for the month! I know, you’re probably thinking, “girl, you made a WHOLE POST about setting monthly goals for yourself and now you’re slipping up?!” And I am here to say, YEP. It’s bound to happen sometimes, and the start of this month, the time when I usually sit down and write my goals out, just completely got away from me. BUT I will say, a lot of my monthly goals carry over from month to month, so having the logged memory of what I had been writing out the last few months was helpful in organically trying to be accountable for myself!

I also slacked big time on the reading front this month, I didn’t pick up a new book. I ordered a book for an online book club for the month of September at the start of this month and I realllllly had to restrain myself from starting it sooner. So, look forward for my thoughts on some books in September!

Now, let’s get to some of the stuff I enjoyed this month!

TV

  • Love on the Spectrum (Netflix): Oh. My. Lord. I loved this show so freaking much! It was just so heartwarming and genuine, I didn’t want it to end. I’m really hoping they will have other seasons in the future because I couldn’t get enough of it!
  • Ozark (Netflix)- Alright. I am a little bit behind on this one, but wow is it good. Like, CRAZY good. I am astounded by everyone’s performances every single episode. I didn’t think this was a show I was going to enjoy, but I am binge-ing it hardcore at the moment- still in season 2.
Monthly Minute
August Round Up

Podcasts

  • Yoga Girl Podcast (and Yoga Girl Daily)- First of all, this woman’s voice just soothes me. I love Yoga Girl Daily specifically because I listen to them most days on my way to work! They are only 5-8 minutes long and each day of the week has a different theme. Lots of setting intentions, reflecting, and taking steps in your daily life to better yourself!

Products

  • My Hydrapeak Water Bottle-: Listen, I don’t care WHAT kind of water bottle you get but get yourself a water bottle! Save the planet! It will also just change your life, really. Personally, I enjoy my drinks nice and cold. Lots of ice. My stainless steel Hydrapeak water bottle (from my local T.J. Maxx- go to yours, I bet they have one or one similar) keeps my drink cold ALL DAY while I’m at work. I’ll come home after a long shift and there will still be ice clanging around in there! I believe you can also put hot liquids in it as well and they’d stay hot! I decorated mine with lots of fun RedBubble stickers 🙂
  • Batiste Volumizing Dry Shampoo: I love me some great dry shampoo, as I am sure many of you do as well. I’ve used the regular Batiste dry shampoo for years, but my mom just recently picked up a couple of cans of the volumizing dry shampoo and gave me one and I LOVE it! Something I’ve tried to start doing this month is training my hair (to not need to be washed as often) because honestly, it was exhausting how often I needed to wash my hair and now I’m just tired of it! I don’t know what it is about this dry shampoo that I love and is working much better than any other one I’ve used! I have naturally very straight and flat hair, so maybe I’m just finding that I like the volume! Either way, check it out!

Not too much to boast about this month, but I am happy to share that a lot of the time that wasn’t spent at work, watching Netflix or reading as much this month was spent on personal development, continued job searching/yoga work, and relaxation where I could grab it. For all of that, I am simply grateful!

Did You LOVE August’s FREE Bullet Journal Templates?

If so, you’re in luck! Didn’t get yours last month? No problem! I am sending out another round for September! If you’ve every wanted to start bullet journaling but have no clue where to start, this template is for you! I’ve curated various pages based on what I use in my own bullet journal as well as suggestions I’ve gotten from Pinterest and the Instagram hive! Everything you need to start tracking your own personal habits for the month can be found in these pages! Sound good? All you have to do to get the FREE templates is subscribe to Beyond the Footlights using your email! This offer will be good for the whole month of September, so you’ve got some time to consider if you’re on the fence! This may be the final month to snag the template for FREE, so you aren’t going to want to miss this!

As many of you have gone back to school and will continue to go back as we move into September, know that I am thinking of you and sending you all the well wishes in the world! Stay safe, smart, and healthy, my loves!

~ Ang

Me First

Me First

Me First
Four Lessons Learned in my First Year of Self-Love

Four Lessons Learned In My Year of Self-Love

Hey y’all!

This week, I wanted to talk about self-love and the journey toward self-love. I’ve used this quote before in a post, but I think it is just so perfect. I love Sex and the City, and one of Carrie’s famous quotes is “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.” I have always loved this quote and have always heard people say that you can’t truly love another person or give them everything until you learn to love yourself and give yourself everything first. I will be the first to admit that I haven’t always lived by this mantra myself.

Around this time last year, I had just gotten out of a relationship, and I knew it was time for me to take some time to really learn how to be on my own. I didn’t truly know who I was independent of a relationship, so I made a promise to myself to be single and not enter a serious relationship for at least a year. It was about time that I started actively practicing self-love rather than seeking it out from someone else. I’ll admit, I was a little hesitant in making this promise. At the time, I didn’t feel like I had enough faith in myself to believe I could honor that promise, no matter how sad or lonely I felt. A year later, I am proud to say that I did kept my promise, and this has been a year full of growth, self-reflection, and lessons learned.

So, what have I learned? Here are some of the most important lessons I have embraced, for better or for worse, in my first year of true self-love:

I learned…how independent I am.

Cultivating independence after spending a lot of time being dependent on other people is one of the toughest things for me in the last year. I spent a lot of time looking for approval and justification from other people, and I realized that not only did I not need that validation from someone else, but I was capable of giving myself all the validation that I would ever need. I’m a very poor decision maker, so I always looked to someone else to back me up in what I was saying, doing, or choosing and by doing that I wasn’t always allowing myself to listen to and trust my intuition. Cultivating my relationship with my intuition is something that I always shoved down, because I knew I could count on someone else to help me decide, rather than just listening to what MY heart and gut were telling me. At the end of the day, my intuition is never going to go away, so why shouldn’t I work on trusting it?

I also spent a lot of time not doing things myself because I knew someone else would help me or take care of it. While it always made my life a little bit easier, I realize now how unhealthy that constant dependency was! The one person that will remain constant in your life is YOU! I think it is important to become as independent as we possibly can so that as we move forward in life, we won’t constantly be seeking some kind of dependency in any aspect of our lives!

I learned…how important my friendships are.

I could write a whole separate post on this note, that’s how strongly I feel about it. I love my girlfriends more than anything, and this year really helped me be a better friend and strengthen my friendships. For the first time in four years, most of my close girl friends and I found ourselves all single all at the same time and we bonded even more than we ever had before. Being that it was my first-year single in a long time, I really leaned on my girls to get me through the moments of sadness and frustration I felt. When I needed someone to snuggle up and drink wine with, they were always there. Whenever I felt like giving up on my promise of self-love, they were right behind me to pick my back up and remind me what I was working towards. Next to myself, they are the other constant relationships I have in my life that I now know will last me a lifetime. I truly can’t imagine valuing my friendships any other way than how I value them now.

I learned…I am strong enough to get through tough times.

When I have been in relationships in the past, whenever something went wrong or I was upset and having a bad day, having that one individual to turn to always seemed like a security blanket. I knew I’d have someone to turn to who would unconditionally listen to me or bring me ice cream, or even just sit with me. Now, I am fortunate enough to have friends and family who would do all of that for me if I ever asked them to, but the relationship with friends/family in that way just never felt the same as it did with a significant other, if that makes sense? This year has been FULL of upsets, especially in the last six months, and sometimes, not having that one special person to turn to was hard and just different. But ultimately, NOT having that one person to turn to made me MUCH stronger. I have learned how to handle upsets and bad days on my own by developing my own healthy habits rather than dumping all my problems onto someone else. It’s a skill I think will serve me well in life, and I’m grateful for it.

I learned…how to value being on my own.

I’m an extrovert, but also an introvert. I think living with roommates in college (love you girls) did just make me value my alone time, and I cherish the times I can just sit in quiet and kind of do whatever I want. Obviously, when you’re in a relationship sometimes you have to sacrifice some of your alone time! I think at the place I was in last year I was looking to have some more time to focus on me and my personal growth. This year has given me just that! Were there lots of times I felt the exact opposite feeling and didn’t want to be by myself after having always spent my time with someone else? Sure. But being on my own helped me create more space for the things I needed/wanted to focus on in my education, my career, and my personal life.

Me First
Four Lessons Learned In My Year of Self-Love

This past year opened my eyes and shown me all I needed and wanted to work on within myself, and has also taught me a lot about my worth and what I expect from people that I allow into my life going forward. It also allowed me to be a little selfish with my time and my energy, as most 20-something’s should really have the freedom to do anyway! Life with a significant other was always special and beautiful in its own way, but life without one has also been special and beautiful too. I love myself more now than I think I have ever loved myself, and I have this year centered on self-love to thank for that. Simply, all in an effort to be better for myself, my friends, my family, and for people I haven’t even met yet.

Lots of love xoxo

~ Ang